Tuesday Trench Truth Thanks for joining us friends for our Tuesday’s Trench Truth.
Ah, how true it is that being critical leads to conflict, chaos and condemnation…none of which are from God! Did you have a critical and/or angry parent whose approval you tried to win? Do you find yourself doing things in order to feel accepted and approved of? Or…do you acknowledge you are not perfect and allow others room for their weaknesses too? What would it look like if we just stopped looking for something or someone to blame when things happen out of our control? Unfortunately blaming seems to be part of the human condition and we seem to have bought into the lie that saying sorry, or that we were wrong is a sign of weakness when in actuality it is a sign of strength and emotional integrity. See the more we understand ourselves, the more we give others permission to be who they are. We’ve got a way that you can do this: Plan on joining us for our How to Love Who You Love relationship class, coming to a trench near you and even available on Zoom. For more information go to www.trenchclassesunited.com/classes Learning and Unlearning Kim-Evinda
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Monday Message Life can feel like a field of weeds at times, with one challenge after another
rising to the surface. Thanks for joining us for Monday’s Message with Abigail Rice and Trench Classes United. Today’s Message is a great reminder that we don’t have to meet life on life’s terms alone. We have a heavenly gardener who longs to be invited into the weeds that He may turn them into beautiful seeds that sprout with victory. This weight I shake I stumble I wait In the dark Feeling the tightness in my heart Closed off So far It was once open But the pressure Made me feel lesser Than who I really am Because who I am Is a warrior and I stand Firm in my foundation Letting Him take command I let go of control I release all I know For the wisdom of this world Is that of the wind Only here for a temporary fix When what I really need is Him His serenity His peace A quiet place of retreat Where I can really live Where I can really be The woman He has called me to be But the enemy He screams Making me believe I am not worthy and my heart bleeds Agonizing Trying to pull up these weeds That no matter how much I pull They take over me So I ask, Lord, how do I get back to my roots When all I see is shoot after shoot Sprouting up and not letting me loose And He says, I am here I have always been here Gardening your soul Holding on until you know That what you reaped You have sown and no man can tell you where to go So listen in And let Me begin To do the work Of my supernatural hands This is out of your control And for so long you have held on Never fully letting go Now let me sow New seeds That will bring Ultimate joy Happiness and peace When you surrender it all Surrender to Me I never let you go Daughter, you know This world can be harsh This world is full of dark and the only way to breathe Is to sing Sing it loud Sing it clear Sing it out for the whole world to hear That I am here and I am near Never far Never gone I have been here all along Daughter, sing your song… Abigail Faith-Filled Friday Isn’t it easy to love those who are kind to us, show appreciation for us and
like to be with us? Thanks for joining us for our Faith-Filled Friday with Debra Dolce and Trench Classes United. Today’s love letter is a great reminder of His golden rule for us which proves to produce a life better than gold. ~Love Letter~ My blessed child, in everything you do, be careful to treat others in the same way you would want them to treat you, for that is the essence of all My teachings. Everybody is born with a need to be known and loved and yet this is not really practiced, not even in My kids. I’d love to see you practicing this principle even when others don't. It doesn't really matter what others do but it does matter what you do. Do your actions support your words? If so, you will be like a garment without spots, or wrinkles. This involves making a commitment to walk in purity. I'll tell you right now there's no such thing as a "white lie"; You need to adjust your thinking. Some think because they asked Me into their life that they are good. Don’t live a double life of only being righteous once a week; instead surrender all and live as My intimate friend. I know how easy it is to get sidetracked and become complacent. You must guard against becoming comfortable. Beloved, you must be a Watchman on the wall, armed for battle, because that is what it's going to take. ~DebraDolce Thursdays Trench Truth Do you often feel misunderstood and/or experience unmet expectations in your
relationships that lead to disappointment or…are you able to speak up and let others know they hurt/disappointed you without an attitude? I don’t know about you but approaching something or someone that has hurt you without an attitude is probably one of the toughest things to do…but I want to emphasize it’s possible, my friend, it’s possible. If you would like to learn how to share unmet expectations and avoid an emotional collision before it happens, then you will want to join us for our How to Love Who you Love trench, coming to a small group near you, and available on Zoom! For more information go to https://www.trenchclassesunited.com/classes.html Learning and unlearning, Kim-Evinda Wednesday Word I watched Roomba go back and forth, getting every square inch, learning
the lay of the rooms, one room at a time. It was fascinating, but what was even more fascinating was instinctively it knew right when it needed to be charged and where to go! Thanks for joining us for Wednesday’s Word with Kim-Evinda and Trench Classes United. I couldn’t help but giggle as I watched my little Roomba. He was showing improvement in learning the rooms of my new house and it was so fun to watch him work while I accomplished other things. Suddenly, my app showed he was headed for a recharge. As I watched him return to his place of dumping and recharging, I got to thinking…where do we dump our junk? Where do we go for a recharge? I don’t know about you, but in my current reality, these are relevant questions. I’ve been feeling a bit sucker-punched lately and so this quiet thought inspired by watching little Roomba was intensely powerful: I need to dump up, not out and down, and I need to go straight to His Word to get in His presence to get my recharge. My hope is in Him, not anyone or anything that attempts to interrupt my peace. His Word is a simple fix for a complex problem. So, this morning, I got regrouped after dumping my hurt, frustration and even anger up to my Abba who cares for me and ALL that concerns me, and then I sat in His word for a bit, specifically Psalm 95:1-7. As I read it and meditated on it the words soaked into my own life and I was able to ground myself with a spiritual reality that overcomes my worldly reality: He wants us to praise Him in the times of uncertainty for then we will become certain of what is true. Can I encourage you, friend, go to the ONE source that will help you recharge and refresh all in one sitting? Dumped and recharging…. Kim-Evinda Tuesday Trench Truth Do you tend to be a peacemaker, afraid of making those close to you upset or angry,
even being dishonest to avoid conflict, or just give in to get it over with, or…can you initiate a difficult conversation to resolve a problem/conflict? What if I were to tell you that you can learn how to say no without it causing you anxiety and insecurity? And it’s never too soon to learn this! A couple of visits ago my grandson admitted to me he was afraid of making me mad so he didn’t come downstairs to have me rub lavender on his feet after he had been upstairs in bed for almost an hour. Oh, what a teaching moment. I was able to say, you know, Bryden, I probably would have been irritated, but then by the time we made it back upstairs and I was rubbing your little feet to help you sleep, I would have been over it. Would you like to overcome this tendency and gain relational security? Then plan on joining us for our How to Love Who You Love trench beginning January 19th. We also have a Zoom opportunity as well. For more information, go to https://www.trenchclassesunited.com/classes.html Thoughtfully, Kim-Evinda Monday Message Ahh, for such a time as this when all seems so uncertain… uncertainty leads us to fear,
but if we remember HE has not changed and will not change no matter what changes come our way. Thanks for joining us for Monday’s Message with Abigail and Trench Classes United. We trust that Abigail’s words will be such a sweet reminder of this very truth as we begin a new year. Lord, I need You today Give me Your clarity today Give me breath Give me strength For I am merely withering Wasting away Can You please show me the way? For as I fall I pray I cry out to You During this season Of something so new So unknown Where is my home? I desire to rest in You But I can't breakthrough Are you still there? Or have you forgotten about me? Despicable me Once a soldier Now as bare as a fallen tree Are You still there? Are You even listening? Because I'm still here Just a broken dream Yet, somehow still radiating Creating life So evergreen Don't You see? You have called me Yet, I feel so lost So lonely My thoughts They haunt me Why won’t You show me? How do I pull out of this mess This weakness This upheaval mountain of distress I am standing before You Naked Undressed Lord, please clothe me With your light beams so Holy So I can be The servant that You need I am here So unaware But I am ready, Lord I am prepared. "I know your deeds, that you have a name That you are alive, but you are dead. Wake up, And strengthen the things that remain, which were about to die; He who overcomes will thus be clothed in white garments; And I will not erase his name from the book of life, And I will confess his name before My Father and before His angels" -Revelation 3:1b-2a;5 Faith-Filled Friday Have you ever been so frustrated with someone who refuses to see the
truth…at least what you believe to be true? Thanks for joining us for our first Faith-Filled Friday for 2023 with Debra Dolce and Trench Classes United. Today’s love letter is a great reminder to be careful who you point the finger on; there’s always three more pointed back to you. ~Love Letter~ My warrior, a true servant of Mine, your Lord Jesus will not be argumentative but gentle toward all and skilled in helping others see the truth, having great patience toward the immature. This is good instruction and will save you so much unnecessary frustration. If you are impatient with others, you should ask yourself "Why?" Maybe you need to examine your own heart and life. Are you skilled in helping others see the truth? Even with that you need great patience. Some desire patience from others but they don't want to give it in return. You can judge how you're doing as you're out in the world and having to interact with others. Don't ever think of yourself as better than anybody else but treat everyone with kindness and dignity, just like you would want for yourself. Train yourself to teach truth by sitting at My feet, learning My Word, in prayer and practicing humility. Beloved, the Word says to humble yourself and in My time, I will raise you up. ~DebraDolce Thursdays Trench Truth Thanks for joining us for Thursday’s Trench Truth, all about relationships and will be
for a few weeks as we head on into our Relationship Trench Class, How to Love Who You Love. Do you tend to struggle to show emotions/cry and think that those who want more connection with you are too needy, or…are you comfortable with emotions and able to offer comfort to those who need it? What if I were to tell you that there is scientific, psychological, and even Biblical research to prove that if emotions were basically stuffed, not allowed, expressed or understood as a child, then we aren’t comfortable with showing them or receiving them as an adult. But that’s not how we were designed. God created us with emotions, mind, body and soul. Limping along life without being able to express emotions and not being understood for those emotions is like a car without gas, a boat without a captain, a plane without a pilot…it’s dangerous and will cause emotional wrecks. We are offering you an opportunity to not only change that cycle but break it once and for all and learn to love who you love healthily. For more information, go to How to Love Who You Love Tickets, Thu, Jan 19, 2023 at 6:30 PM | Eventbrite Wednesday Word Baffled beyond words, I listened to the nurse mimic my words to her staff
as though I couldn’t hear her. “She says, ‘It’s on the books; well, it’s not in my book!’” The phone finally disconnected on the other end and I sat there stunned, so stunned I had to pause.\ Have you ever experienced a moment where you’re like “Oh no, they didn’t”? Thanks for joining us today for Wednesday’s Word with Kim- Evinda and Trench Classes United. Today she shares such a moment as this and equips us with what to do in those moments. May our first Wednesday’s Word of the New Year cause you to pause. The dictionary definition for “pause” is “to stop temporarily in speech and/or action.” I couldn’t pause too long as I was just starting a Zoom meeting. Unfortunately, my attendee heard the conversation and we both just shook our heads, and I shook it off for the meeting, but when my meeting was finished, I knew what I had to do. I dialed my doctor’s office and another familiar voice answered, I thought it was her at first but then realized it wasn’t. I asked for her and then in an effort to explain why I was calling, I explained the situation from my perspective, first owning that I wasn’t sure if it was my tone, or my words, but to hear her mimic me when she thought we had hung up was very hurtful and I wanted to straighten it out. The nurse on the other end assured me she’d have her call me back. It didn’t take long and as soon as she identified herself, I started to explain that I wasn’t sure if I had done something to offend her, or if I had used a harsh tone or what, but I had heard her mimicking me. Her response surprised me: “I shouldn’t have done that or said that and I’m so sorry.” There was a slight hesitation, “but you did come at me a little strong.” “That’s fair,” I exclaimed. I’m so sorry; it’s not my intent. I’m not making excuses for that, it’s something I need to work on. I’m just juggling a bit right now and tired of not feeling well for more than three months and just want answers. So please forgive me and I’ll be sure and pause to express myself more appropriately. We talked about the pressures this pandemic had placed on all of us and were on mutual communication wavelengths. And then she said something else that surprised me: “I’m so glad you called; it takes a brave person to do what you did and I’m so thankful. If you need anything, you have my name now, call me and I’ll take care of you.” I was so grateful that I was able to own it so I could disown it, but if I had not paused, I would have kept it inside, allowed it to fester and interfere with not only that relationship, but all the relationships I have with my doctor’s staff. It just felt so good to resolve it so well. Friend, can I encourage you in this new year, pray about a word that God would have you practice making you a better person; chances are it will rub off on others and help others in your world to become better people, too. Intentionally, Kim-Evinda |
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