​Have you ever tried to learn the steps to a dance and just gave up out of frustration?
 
Relationships can be likened to dancing, and if we don’t learn the steps, we wind up walking away or we continue to not just step on the toes of those we care about; but crush them.

Do you experience a sort of emotional dance of back-and-forth connection with those closest to you or…do you feel consistent healthy connection with those closest to you? If you would like to learn how to dance better, relationally that is, join us in a trench near you for How to Love Who You Love.
 
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Learning the happy relational dance,
Kim-Evinda
  
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​So many of us make resolutions on the 1st, and by the end of the month, they are all but forgotten.
 
Thanks for joining us for Monday’s Message with Abigail Rice and Trench Classes United. Today’s Poem is a great reminder that in this new year, to rely and wait on the Lord will bring new life, new growth, new joy.
 
Another new year
Another chance to obey
To learn
To listen
To grow
 
To be still
and know
That in the quiet
There is His voice
In the stillness
There is HIs presence
 
and with His Wind
We begin
 
It’s a windy day today
Fitting
I know
As all I around I hear word
About fresh wind
and new growth
Which requires repentance
and letting go…

​So what do I need to repent of?
Where do I need to let go?
 
                  My flesh
                  and wicked heart of stone
                  Always wanting to move
                  To prove
                  That I can make a way
                  and create my own growth
 
If there is anything this past year has shown
Is that I truly have no control
My life is not my own
 
                  To be still
                  and know
                  That those things I did let go
                  Have shown
                  That God is moving
                  and proving
                  That He is providing
                  and protecting
                  In ways that in the moment
                  and sometimes still
                  I cannot comprehend
                  But in the end
                  It is His way
                  Is is His plan
                  and on His rock
                  I will stand
 
and now
Now is the time
To draw the line in the sand
No more going back
No more pushing against the Wind
 
For I will wait on the Lord
and soar on the wings of Eagles
Even though now
It may not make sense
I would rather be moving
With the breath of His Wind
Than rely on the strength
Of my own feeble, human hands
 
Love,
Abigail
 
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​When someone distances themselves from you, how does it make you feel? Chances are, not so good, right?
 
Thanks for joining us for Faith-Filled Friday with Debra Dolce and Trench Classes United. Today’s Love Letter is a great reminder for the start of a New Year. When we keep Him close, He will guide us to where we need to go, and what we need to do in the journey of life.

~ Love Letter ~
 
Trust in Me, the Lord, completely, and do not rely on your own opinions. With all your heart rely on Me to guide you, and I will lead you in every decision you make.
 
How is this even possible? Become intimate with Me in whatever you do, and I will lead you wherever you go. This is such a good promise. Do you believe the things I say to you? Do you believe My promises are for today and they're for you? So many read them and believe they're for those in the Bible but that's as far as it goes.
 
You can make any promise of  Mine yours if you believe. So much can change when you trust and rely on Me. When you rely on Me, I will guide you in every decision you need to make. This is an unbelievable help for those that are Mine.
 
Put yourself in a place where you become intimate with Me any time of day or night. The more intimate you become with Me, the more you'll see and understand. You can be assured that I will lead you wherever you  need to go.
 
How much better will your life be when I'm leading and guiding you in all things? Even when things seem overwhelming, know that I am right here, ready to show you the way to go. Beloved, look to Me for all things and let Me be your guide. 
 
~DebraDolce
 
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​Do you tend to feel upset when you feel others are distancing themselves from you and/or do you have a hard time being alone?
 
Oh, I still remember the anxiety that would come over me when others distanced themselves from me and even worse, when I was left alone to sit in my skin…alone. Now, years later, after peeling back the why of it all, I enjoy being alone, and when others distance themselves, I do better at staying out of my head and allowing them to do them.

If you answered yes to either of those questions, then would you consider joining us in our “How to Love Who You Love” Life Experience class to learn how to not jump to the worst conclusion when others distance themselves from you?
 
I can guarantee you that this eight-week journey will be like finally being able to finish the puzzle of your relationships and will equip you in ways you never realized you needed. This life-experience class is not only affordable, but eye-opening, life-changing, and only eight weeks!  Determine that 2025 you will invest in yourself and the most important gift of all, your relationships Check the link below for options.
 
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Truthfully,
Kim-Evinda

​She sat reflecting on the new year ahead which led her to think about the things in her life she wanted to do differently. One of them was to express gratitude to others and for others. Immediately she was reminded of a witness whose deposition she had taken recently.
 
Thanks for joining us for Wednesday’s Word with Kim-Evinda and Trench Classes United. 2025 is here and today’s blog is a great reminder that we don’t always have to be grateful FOR all things, but we can be thankful IN all things.

In her 35+ years of court reporting, there had been very few cases that made her stumble in her reporting from evoked compassion, but this particular deposition was one of those that did just that. It was an applicant in a workers’ compensation case, and in my 35+ years of reporting, I can count on two hands how many times I’ve been moved to compassionate disbelief, let alone be a proponent for the deponent. This was one of them. Without giving you too many details, let me just say that it brought this life-coaching truth to life.
 
While working he was involved in a horrendous auto accident that wasn’t his fault but happened as a result of the other driver’s negligence. The work truck flipped and because it was carrying two propane tanks caught fire…after him and his partner were out of it. One of the first things they did was take a picture of the truck in flames and call their boss; what they didn’t notice until moments after was the dead body of the other driver in the middle of the road.
 
As you can imagine, there are some horrendous emotional effects from this…and still his story didn’t end there. The questioning attorney went on to ask him if there were any other stressors in his life, to which he answered yes.  By this time, I was all ears, meaning I wasn’t in a hurry for the deposition to be over, as I usually am. I was in no way prepared for his next response.
His wife was recently diagnosed with lung cancer.
 
Despite being just a tiny square on a Zoom platform, I had to look away to wipe the tears from my eyes, while trying to write as he continued to explain this additional challenge.
 
The attorney was equally surprised and maneuvered through it with kindness as he headed toward the completion of the deposition, which included asking how the accident has affected his day-to-day life.
Again, I was in no way prepared for his answer – usually by this time, the applicant is exaggerating all symptoms and disabilities –“It’s helped me to live with more purpose. I could of died, but I didn’t. And as far as my wife, I do all that I can to spend more time with her, you know? I take her out on dates every week, go dancing, hiking. I hold her hand more, let her know how much I love her.”
 
As the deposition ended, I filled with a sense of awe and respect. No witness had ever surprised me or moved me as much as he did. His gratitude moved me from my current physical complaints to the things I am able to do. His attitude of gratitude revealed my own lack of gratitude while reminding me that while we don’t have to be grateful for the things we are going through, there is always something to be grateful for while in the challenges.
 
Love,
Kim-Evinda

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​This has often been a double-edged sword for me because I’ve been known to “vent” about many things, but I’ve learned through our How to Love class as well as our Transform program that just because I see something doesn’t mean I get to say something. In other words, I need to vent up, not throw up. I have a circle of accountability friends that I can share my frustrations with and they help to guide me through them instead of me taking matters into my own mouth…or out😊

The truth is everyone needs someone to vent to, but there’s a difference between venting and vomiting!
If we can’t say what we’re venting to the one we’re venting about, perhaps we shouldn’t say it.
If you would like to learn how to vent healthily and not vomit your hurts and frustrations, join us in our upcoming How to Love Who You Love life-experience class beginning the week of January 21st.  See the link below for all the options.
 
Have a terrific Tuesday!
Kim-Evinda

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When facing adversity and uncertainty, who do you invite to walk alongside you?
Thanks for joining us for Monday’s Message with Abigail Rice and Trench Classes United. Today’s poem is a great reminder that no matter how uncertain things are or they look, His love will lead you to higher ground…if you allow Him to lead in this dance called life.

Living in uncertainty
In the face of adversity
How does one dream
While living in between
What once was
and what could be?
As far off as it seems
Impossible
Improbable
Not meant for me
How could it be?
This reality
Is far from reach.
The depths of these needs
One could never imagine
Or ever wish on their worst enemy
 
But darling these depths
Are just the first winds of His breath
Breathing on you
and all around you
Reminding you
You are HIS
 
His daughter
His child
His love for you
Is so vast
There is no denial
So deep
He would bleed
Giving you His last breath
Giving you everything
 
Right now it may seem empty
You feel abandoned
Alone
Like what kind of Father could ever call this a home?
But He knows
 
He knows your pain
He sees your shame
The way you hide
Left with no one to blame
 
Yet, it’s here
In the very deep
You realize
You are not forgotten
Little sheep
No, you are LOVED
and more than that
You have been gifted from above
To feel the depth
And experience the breadth
Of how wide
And how deep
Your Fathers love will reach
 
It’s reaching out for you
Longing for you
To look up and just see
Everything you could ever need
Darling
Is in the hands of your Shepherd
and you are not lost
Little sheep
You are held
And this story
Soon you will tell
To lead others to your pasture
Where there is only love
Joy and laughter
 
For now
Just be
Just be held
Just be seen
and know that this happening
Is filling you up
With more than just knowledge in your cup
 
It’s one thing to know
It’s another to undergo
and taste the true sweetness
Of His love in your weakness
 
“That you may have the power and be strong to apprehend and grasp with all the saints [God’s devoted people, the experience of that love] what is the breadth and length and height and depth [of it];[That you may really come] to know [practically, through experience for yourselves] the love of Christ, which far surpasses mere knowledge [without experience]; that you may be filled [through all your being] unto all the fullness of God [may have the richest measure of the divine Presence, and become a body wholly filled and flooded with God Himself]!” - Ephesians 3:18-19
 
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​Do you ever wonder how to hear from God?
 
Thanks for joining us for our first Faith-Filled Friday with Debra Dolce and Trench Classes United. Today’s Love Letter is a great explanation of how to hear from Him, which makes it easier to walk with Him in obedience.

Love Letter~
 
Because you are united to Me, Christ, you have equal and direct access in the realm of the Holy Spirit to come before the Father! Remember you can ask the Father anything in My name and He'll give it to you because of your relationship with Me.
 
It's so amazing that you have direct access to the realm of the Holy Spirit to come before the Father! Are you ready for this? Do you know what you want to speak about to the Father? There is plenty to share with the Father. Nothing ever needs to be hidden. Being able to speak freely is a wonderful freedom. A freedom that many wished they had.
 
Come and share all that you have to say and then listen to My response back to you. Listening to what I have to share with you is incredibly important. This is how you grow close to Me.
 
When you come and spend time with Me, praying, meditating, reading and listening you develop a strong relationship, a strong bond between us. This is how you will hear Me and feel me guiding you.
Before I send you anywhere you have to be able to hear and follow My instructions. Beloved, train your ear to hear My voice and then to follow. 
 
~DebraDolce
  
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​Do you remember a time as a child when you were told to stop crying? Chances are you said yes. Every time I ask the participants in my life-experience classes this question, 99% of them raise their hand. 

We may make light of this truth, but then as it settles over and in each of us, it brings another truth to the surface. We’ve been taught from a young age to not feel, to bury whatever’s bothering us and not deal.
 
History reveals that stuffing our feelings, to not deal with what we feel doesn’t solve anything; in fact, it creates more problems, especially relationally.
 
To pay attention to our emotional dashboard is to avoid being and causing emotional wrecks.
 
Truthfully,
Kim-Evinda
 
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​As we enter into 2025, what are your resolutions?
Thanks for joining us for Wednesday’s Word with Kim-Evinda and Trench Classes United. Today’s short blog is a great reminder that we don’t have to accomplish those resolutions alone.
I remember when I learned what the word root (reso) for resolution meant in Hebrew (Old Testament). It gave me and continues to give me such hope as I endeavor to do all that I’m called to do. 

The definition is: “to partner with The Holy Spirit.”
Let’s break it down just a bit more: “partner” means: “one associated with another especially in an action; a person with whom one shares an intimate relationship.”
 
As I look forward to the New Year, there are a few things I need to partner with His Spirit in, and as I partner with Him, He will lead me to and through whatever comes my way.
 
My prayer is that truth will seep into your soul as you begin this new opportunity to accomplish all that you are meant to, knowing and believing that when you partner with HIM, you won’t fail.
 
Love,
Kim-Evinda
 
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