When life is hitting hard, who do you turn to?
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Thanks for joining us for Faith-Filled Friday with Debra Dolce and Trench Classes United. Today’s Love Letter is a great reminder that we do have a life partner and His name is Jesus and no matter what comes our way, He’s got this!

~Love Letter~ 

Refuse to worry about tomorrow, but deal with each challenge that comes your way, one day at a time, tomorrow will take care of itself. I am already in your tomorrow all the way through eternity. I am already doing the work I desire ahead of time. So now you can relax and let Me do the work that's needed.

As each challenge comes today, let Me do the work I need to do and you can do the work you need to do. You don't have to stress out or worry. You don't have to try to figure everything out. Why would you try that when I already know everything there is to know about this and every challenge that comes your way? I have the solution for every challenge.

I also guide you in the way for you to walk through each challenge with a promise to use it for your good and My glory. Sometimes your character needs to be refined. When you look like a spoiled child throwing a fit because you want this or that to happen; how does that make you look? Do others see you trusting Me through each challenge? Do people see you all stressed out because you're worrying about everything that's coming your way?

Strong are the ones who refuse to worry. Strong are the ones who decide to spend their anxious moments on their knees. Don't try to prepare at the last minute but stay in fellowship with Me. Keep yourself prayed up. Stay in My Word. Stay in fellowship with believers that know Me, that know My power. Beloved, surround yourself with prayer warriors, those who will pray and speak life into you. 

~DebraDolce

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One of the most common threads in relational breakdowns and breakups is the lack of honest conversations.
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To not say something out of fear of something by someone actually creates more conflict and eventually there’s a rupture that splits from resentments and a lack of honesty.

Friends, honest conversations create honest relationships, and while honest conversations can be hard, they tend to soften the heart and make room for healthy communication.

Who can you practice being honest with today…IN LOVE?

Truthfully,
Kim-Evinda

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She sat there, stunned by humble conviction followed by a bit of human frustration. “Why didn’t I see this sooner?” she asked more to herself than Him.
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Thanks for joining us for Wednesday’s Word with Kim-Evinda and Trench Classes United. Today’s blog really brings this truth to the surface: His word is alive and meets us right where we are.

Clearing the Path by Nathan Westwick was not one of those books that you read in a couple of sittings. She had started it a while ago, and knew after reading Chapter 1 that this was going to be one of those that would need to be read and digested slowly so as to get the full benefit emotionally and spiritually. After all, its premise is meant to connect with God in a more intimate and meaningful way by clearing the path of distractions.

She was in Chapter 3, recognizing not only the valleys in our life, but what not to fill them with. She was in no way prepared for a new understanding she received by a passage of scripture she thought she was more familiar with, “the woman at the well.”

As she dug into John 4:3-18 alongside the text in her current study, a new truth revealed itself, brighter than the principle of respect, and with it came the realization of the timing of His timing, perfect, as usual: She had never related with the woman at the well…until now.

She remembered she was a Samaritan woman and those two combined brought reproach. She also remembered her as commonly referred to as a prostitute or in the current vernacular a ho. When Jesus asked her where her husband was, and she replied that she wasn’t married. His response was nothing other than “other worldly” as he agreed with her by letting her know she had been married FIVE times and wasn’t married to the man she was currently with.

She was stunned that He knew all of this. But let’s not miss why He then chose to share with her about “The Living Water.”  He was letting her know that He understood her feelings of rejection and abandonment and her desperate search for love. He wanted her to know that what He was offering her, NO MAN could ever give her. In other words, His love would never reject or abandon her.

Friends, I never really related with the woman at the well until just recently. I too have been rejected and abandoned…several times; however, because He is my first love, I don’t have to go searching for a man’s love. Sure, I’d like to have a man who loves me for always, who is not threatened by my faith, my strength and/or my passion to help others drink of “The Living Water,” but that need no longer sends me searching. If I’m to experience that, I want Him to send it and not have me try and find it.

Friend, are you thirsty for love? If you are single, wondering if you’ll ever find that “perfect” love, can I encourage you to drink of “The Living Water” that you would be satisfied and content.
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Love,
Kim-Evinda
 
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We just began our life-experience class, Living Fearlessly © and we started by each sharing a personal fear, and I clarified that I wasn’t talking about a fear of heights, or gross bugs, or being afraid of the dark. In other words, I asked them to think of fears created by unseen things.
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There was the fear of not standing up for self, of being alone, not being loved/valued, fear of not being a good parent, fear of failure, and fear of being rejected/abandoned.

Who can’t relate with these fears? I related with all of them and then I was able to make the connection that all of these internal fears are tied to unresolved life experiences.

What would your life look like if you truly sat and traced your internal fears? You’d learn how to live fearlessly, the way God created you to live!

Truthfully,
Kim-Evinda


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When you think of the words fail or failure, what comes to mind?
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Thanks for joining us for Monday’s Message with Abigail Rice and Trench Classes United. Today’s poem is a great reminder that we live in a world wrought with the propensity to compare on social media platforms, but we are not defined by our successes or our failures. 

Crystallized like honey
Stuck in the dark
For too long
 
We become hard
 
Hardened to this life
Hardened to His love
Hardened to the ability to receive
His gifts from above
 
Who we are
Is not defined
By our sins
Or our wins
 
But rather by time
As we live on this earth
That revolves around the Sun
We often become stuck
 
By our own limitations
And beliefs
That time can either heal
Or take away
 
Burdened by strife
That this life often brings
 
The clock again
Strikes three
 
Time to wake up
Time to leave
Time to grieve
 
Time to heal
To appeal
And seal
Every Word He has ever spoken
& every time we have folded
 
Listening to the seasons
And tides
Often we fall pressure
To the whispers
And lies
 
But the funny thing about time
It can flip on a dime
And one day
We could wake up to the most violent of crimes
Or even worse the loss of a life
 
So what do we do when we become crystallized?
 
Submerge into the Water of Life
 
I often think about the story of Job
His trials
And belief
That he was victimized
 
The time he wasted
Listening to his friends lies
Until he finally listened to his Creator
The Maker of the waves and the tides
 
Trials and temptations will come
And we will become hardened in this life
 
But that honey will flow
Once we submerge into the Water of Life
Even sweeter than before
For all we endured
 
After Job lost it all
He gained back so much more
 
And if you read between the lines
The names of his three daughters
Given after his trial
Jemimah
Keziah
And Keren-happuch
 
Meaning
Day by day
The same as
Horn of antimony
 
Antimony according to the Cambridge Dictionary
Is a chemical element that is a silver-white, poisonous metal.
It is hard but easily broken and is used to make other metals harder and stronger…
 
 
In Jobs scenario
I believe antimony is referring to the trials of life
 
Trials are hard
& can easily break us
But they mold us
& shape us
 
To come out stronger than we were before
 
Even something poisonous can God only turn to be used for good…
 
Love,
Abigail
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How many times has your car reminded you that you needed to put your seatbelt on, or reminded your passenger?
 
Thanks for joining us for Faith-Filled Friday with Debra Dolce and Trench Classes United. Today’s Love Letter is a great reminder that when our minds are stayed on Him, life is just safer.

Love Letter~
 
Keep your thoughts continually fixed on all that is authentic and real, honorable and admirable, beautiful and respectful, pure and holy, merciful and kind. Fasten your thoughts on My every glorious work, praising Me always. When you work on accomplishing this, you'll have no time to think badly of anyone else. You'll have no time to think badly of yourself.
 
Think about this right now and gauge where you might be at. How much time do you think of yourself verses Me? The world you live in is so consumed with themselves that it's hard to think of anyone else. Think of all the things you thought about today and put them in any of these categories: authentic or real, honorable or admirable, beautiful or respectful, pure or holy, merciful or kind.
 
When you can think good at the precise moment things are happening, you are doing well. You are doing well for yourself and for those that you're thinking about or interacting with.
One of the best ways to practice being in a good frame of mind is to be thankful for everything that comes. When you are thankful, it gives you a chance to think of these things as I've instructed. Ask yourself how I look at what you are going through and what you are thinking.
 
When you get ready to say negative things about people or issues, stop, and think about what I would say or what I would do. This may help you. When I am at the forefront of your thoughts, everything you do and think will be so much better and your thoughts won’t drive you off the path I have set before you.
 
Always be ready to share the light of My Word, of how I would see things instead of seeing the bad side of everything. Seeing the bad side of things makes you sad, even depressed. Seeing the good in everything encourages you, helps you to go further, even succeed.
 
Beloved, when you allow your mind to walk this road with Me, oh, how much happier you'll be. 
 
~DebraDolce

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​Whew, becoming single, especially at this age, has been one of my greatest challenges and one of my deepest sorrows. The old me would have run right out, without stopping for deep healing, and found someone else but the truth is that never worked. Why? Because hurt people hurt people…but healed people can help in the healing.

When my Vertical relationship is intact, my horizontal relationships will be healthier. John 15:10-11 reminds us that by putting our relationship with Him first, our joy will be complete and no other can compete!
 
God is the God of relationship and desires one with you and me.
 
Truthfully,
Kim-Evinda
 
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“Driving Your Thoughts Instead of Letting Them Drive You.” PART 2
 
Why, God, does my mind continue to take these treacherous, time-wasting, joyless and sorrowful detours?
 
She waited for Him to answer.
 
Finally, Kim-Evinda, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Thanks for joining us for Wednesday’s Word with Kim-Evinda and Trench Classes United. Have you ever wondered how to train your brain to not think the things it does, or how to pull it out of the pit it can drag you into? Kim-Evinda shares how she is learning to be the driver of her thoughts thru a difficult season in this second part of her new series, “Driving Your Thoughts Instead of Letting Them Drive You.”
 
I’m not one for wasting time. When I set out to go somewhere, I go straight there; I don’t take any detours – well, I can think of one place that I would, Kauai! 😊 So here’s a detour 😊 😊 Whenever I’ve ventured out on an adventure, headed for a specific destination in Kauai, I have almost aways taken detours. Why? Because there’s always a reward in the form of a beautiful waterfall, or an ocean so blue it takes your breath away, or foliage so green and sweet-smelling it makes you want to stop and thank our Creator for such beauty.  Yes, whenever I’ve taken a detour while driving, or walking, for that matter on the island of Kauai, it has been worth it!
 
But that’s not real life. My mind is always driving me to and through emotional detours. Do you catch your thoughts drifting from where you are to something or someone else?
 
In my  Season of adultery recovery [SOAR] my thoughts keep going back to some of the same questions, over, and over, and over again, like a mouse stuck on a wheel going and going, expecting a different result but going in the same direction, around and around and around…crazy, less faithful and more flesh-full, pulling me away from the One who has my answers and will give them to me in His time. And before I know it, I’m drowning in a puddle of my own tears. ☹
 
I have read this scripture over and over and have never had it come to life more than in THIS season. It literally is a mind-altering scripture that can help us with these crazy detours that our mind tends to take us on, no matter what you are going through. Let’s look at the first two whatever’s:
 
Finally, My child, whatever is true…STOP!
 
My argument with this one, and yours may be as well, is this: it is true, they did what they did; there’s no dispute.
 
“Okay,” God says, “but is it noble”?
 
“Heck to the no,” I say; “what they did, said, thought was not noble. They may think it was but…”
“Stop! You don’t know what they think; only I know their thoughts. Get off the detour, turn around and head back to Me.”
 
Friend, can I encourage you this week to just take the first two “whatever’s” and practice putting the brakes on the car of your thoughts, lest they drive you crazy. His Word is there to help us do exactly that.
 
Finally, My child, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
 
Love,
Kim-Evinda


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​Thanks for joining me for Tuesday’s Trench Truth.
 
Recently I was reminded of this very powerful truth: Learning to understand first helps us to be understood. Without divulging who this difficult conversation was with, let me just share that one of the comments made was that I was not a safe place to share their truth. Now, I wish I could say my first response was to rush to agreement and assure them it wouldn’t happen again, but it wasn’t. In my private party logic, I was straining in the restraint to defend myself. It was in that restraint that I was able to prayerfully consider how I could try and understand where they were coming from. I myself have experienced not feeling safe so I was able to empathize with that horrible feeling. I then went on to apologize for whatever it was that I had said or done to give them that feeling of not being safe.

Within minutes, and to my surprise, they responded positively. 
 
Instead of trying to be understood by defending myself, I had practiced this principle of understanding first and it worked. Can I encourage you today if you are in the middle of a conflict with someone, sit quiet and ask God to show you where in the conflict can you try to understand. It is then that the bridge to mutual understanding can be built, one step at a time.
 
Truthfully,
Kim-Evinda
 
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Have you ever been given a dream or a vision that moved you to pursue it?
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Thanks for joining us for Monday’s Message with Abigail Rice and Trench Classes United. Today’s blog is a great reminder that when He gives us a vision, He will guide us to it and through it.

To dream again
Believe again
 
When the world is crashing in
everything is spiraling
 
You spin
 
Feeling as though those dreams you once had
Will never begin
 
Always on the defense
Fighting again
Wondering when it will all end
 
Be still heart
Listen
 
His promises stand true
Those dreams
Those visions
 
They belong to you
 
He will make all things new…
 
Stand firm
Stand strong
Don’t believe the lies
And the doom
 
Soon darling
Soon
 
He will come back for you
 
It’s time to believe again
To dream again
To stand firm on His Word
And not turn
 
Back to the former
Back to the familiar
 
This year
You are different
 
The air
It’s shifted
 
The past years have been blue
But you are stronger
When you surrender
 
Be still heart
And listen
 
“Thus says the Lord, Who makes a way through the sea and a path through the mighty waters, Who brings forth chariot and horse, army and mighty warrior. They lie down together, they cannot rise; they are extinguished, they are quenched like a lampwick:
Do not [earnestly] remember the former things; neither consider the things of old.
Behold, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs forth; do you not perceive and know it and will you not give heed to it? I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” - Isaiah 43:16-19
 
Love,
Abigail
 
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