Mindreading vs. Communicating

Tuesday’s Trench Truth

Yes, there is a difference. Thanks for joining us for Tuesday’s Trench Truth.

Let me ask you: Do you take more than your fair share of responsibility for tasks that have to be done?

Why do you think that is? I know in the beginning of my marriage I would get myself so wound up over the fact that my husband would leave his chonies and socks on the floor. Time after time I would pick them up, frustrated that he wouldn’t for some reason do it himself.

This example of course is minor in the life of marriage…but it’s all those little things that go unresolved that create large problems. I had no idea that fear was behind my inability to speak up; instead I thought I didn’t have to ask him to do these things; he should just know it.

NOT SO!

When we make assumptions of others knowing what we need without us asking, believe it or not, it’s fear driven.

Friend, can I challenge you to ask yourself the  next time you assume someone should just know something, or understand your irritation, what am I afraid of? Why don’t I just gently speak my need and not make it about their behavior?

Hey if you’d like to learn how to communicate fearlessly and thereby live fearlessly, then plan on joining us in our next trench beginning the week of April 19th!

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Fearlessly,
Kim-Evinda