​Driving Your Thoughts Instead of Letting Them Drive You, Part 3
She stopped abruptly, almost letting go of the weights that were in her hands. She
stood there dumbfounded and discouraged hearing the words repeated by her
trainer that her ex-husband had shared with her before the bitter end.

Thanks for joining us for Wednesday’s Word with Kim-Evinda and Trench Classes
United in Part 3 of “Driving Your Thoughts Instead of Letting Them Drive You.” Many
of us have had lies spoken about us, or things said that shouldn’t have been shared,
and if we’re honest, it stings, hurts, stirs up anger and resentment. Today’s blog
addresses how to not allow those lies and hurtful comments drive us toward
emotional wrecks. As Kim-Evinda shares from her season of healing, her hope and
prayer is that it will encourage any other hurting hearts out there.

She didn’t know if she was angrier about the lie spoken about her to her friend’s
husband, or the truth that the person who said it was no closer to returning to Christ
than when their whole nightmare came to light all those years ago. The realization
that he was still blaming her for his choices loomed over her heavier than the
weights she was trying to lift to bring her muscles back to life.

Her thoughts seemed to keep returning there, like a car driving in circles trying to find
a different route. And they kept returning, and then she remembered His whisper to
her all those weeks ago: Finally, Kim-Evinda, whatever is true, whatever is noble,
whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if
anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

In the days that followed, she pushed the lie away…but it kept coming back to the
surface of her mind, and when she made the mistake of talking about it on two
different occasions, she found herself in an out-of-control fishtailing kind of feeling in
her mind…headed towards an emotional wreck. She knew she had to do something
different.

She took the steering wheel of her mind and slammed on the brakes with the first
part, daring to test it against this scripture:

What he had said wasn’t true. But her emotional foot came off the brake and
she steered her thoughts to the next one.

Noble. Well heck to the no, what he said wasn’t noble; in fact, it was quite
cowardly, a way to live with it, I guess, she thought.

Nothing about what he had said was right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent,
or praiseworthy.

“Then stop allowing your thoughts to drive you,” He repeated. His admonishment
settled into her soul, steering her thoughts to a better place…His presence, His
promises.

Friend, can I encourage you that when someone speaks a lie about you, or even
shares a truth about you that hurts, grab on to the steering wheel of your mind and
cling to this gentle admonishment from Abba Himself, that you may not be an
emotional wreck or cause one.
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Thoughtfully,
Kim-Evinda

How many times have you blamed someone for something that went
wrong, or someone’s blamed you?
Thanks for joining me for Tuesday’s Trench Truth.

In the trenches we don’t look back to stay in the past; we look back to
learn from the past. When we dare to do some reflection, God is faithful
to help us understand our own choices and the choices of others that
affect us. The more we understand, the less we’ll blame; the less we
blame, the easier it is to let it go and not let it hinder us from a brighter
future.

Reflection is learning from our past, not staying in our past.
​
Truthfully,
Kim-Evinda

Have you ever heard of the saying, borrowing from Peter to pay Paul? Worrying is a form of
borrowing, a borrowing of trouble, and completely unnecessary, and usually leaves us
feeling bankrupt.

Thanks for joining us for Faith-Filled Friday with Debra Dolce and Trench Classes United.
Today’s Love Letter is a great reminder that worrying in any form is not an emotion given to
us by God, our Creator.

~Love Letter~
Does worry add anything to your life? Can it add one more year, or even one day? So if
worrying adds nothing, but actually subtracts from your life, why would you worry about
My care for you?

Meditate on this. Look at the things you are prone to worry about. How does worry
actually help you? Does it help you come up with solutions to your problems? Do you
worry about things you can do nothing about? Many do this, but it does nothing to help
you.

When you come and give all that concerns you to Me, that's when things begin to
change. This giving up of all that concerns you brings rest and that's My desire for you.
It is a good thing to learn; to rest in Me, helps you to let go of all the anxious thoughts.
One by one, give all those concerns to Me and when they come rolling back into your
mind again, and they will, release them to Me. Make this a continual practice so that you
can become stress free.

Imagine your life without all that stress, all that anxiety. Wouldn't that be wonderful? I
promise you this: you will feel like a new person.

Beloved, I love when you let Me set you free from the bondages that entangle you for
the things that entangle you keep you from moving closer to Me.

Beloved, come to Me and I will set you free and fill you with My love so that anxiety no
longer rules your life. 

~DebraDolce

Thanks for joining me for a trench truth.
I saw this post the other day and it literally reached out and grabbed me: Stop
dating while you are hurting! And then I paraphrased it in my editorial way: you
are infecting others!

Isn’t it so true that hurt people hurt people…but healed people can help in the
healing?

If you’d like to experience relational healing, please, plan on joining us next week
in a trench near you to learn how to love those you love.

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Learning and unlearning
Kim-Evinda

The words of the verse pulled her mind out of the pit of depression it was headed for. Funny,
she thought, how the mind can pick up speed towards things not praiseworthy, or of good
report, but it sure is slow to head the other direction towards hope-filled possibilities.

Thanks for joining us for Wednesday’s Word with Kim-Evinda and Trench Classes United. Have
you ever wondered how to train your brain to not think the things it does, or how to pull it out
of the pit it can drag you into? Kim-Evinda shares how she is learning to be the driver of her
thoughts through a difficult season of waiting and wondering n this first of her new series,
“Driving Your Thoughts Instead of Letting Them Drive You.”

Her mind kept going to a recent event of deep disappointment that seemed to repeat itself any
time she dared to put herself out there in the world of singles. she tried reaching for
understanding that felt so unobtainable, it was as if its shadow was an airplane flying high,
coming down for a landing and then immediately changing its course. She just didn’t get it.
How is it that people can pose as someone or something and then, when it comes down to
talking, and/or meeting, they suddenly are gone? Why are there so many singles out there
doing this? What is it they have to gain? How can they just live their lives as if they are doing
nothing wrong? Her heart ached for these answers.

Finally, Kim-Evinda, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure,
whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think
about such things.

Her thoughts, questions came to a screeching halt. She wanted to argue with God, but she
couldn’t; instead, He gave her a way to take control of these detours her heart insisted on
venturing off onto. And once again, she surrendered her season of singleness over to her First
Husband, the one who would never leave her, cheat on her or lie to her.

Oh, friend, have you ever wandered and wondered in your thoughts to a point where they
drove you to an unpleasant place? In other words, do your thoughts drive you crazy or to a
beautiful place? Join me next week in this series for part 2; in the meantime, “If anything is
excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.”
​
Love,
Kim-Evinda

​Have you ever tried to learn the steps to a dance and just gave up out of frustration?
Thanks for joining me for Tuesday’s Trench Truth.
Relationships are a lot like a dance, and if we don’t learn the steps, we wind up walking away or
we continue to step on the toes of those we care about.
Do you experience a sort of emotional dance of back-and-forth connection with those closest to
you or…do you feel consistent healthy connection with those closest to you? If you would like
to learn how to dance better, relationally that is, join us in a trench near you for How to Love
Who You Love.

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Learning the happy relational dance,
Kim-Evinda

​So many of us make resolutions on the 1 st , and by the end of the month, they are all but
forgotten.

Thanks for joining us for Monday’s Message with Abigail Rice and Trench Classes United.
Today’s Poem is a great reminder that in this new year, to rely and wait on the Lord will
bring new life, new growth, new joy.

Another new year
Another chance to obey
To learn
To listen
To grow
To be still
and know
That in the quiet
There is His voice
In the stillness
There is HIs presence
and with His Wind
We begin
It’s a windy day today
Fitting
I know
As all I around I hear word
About fresh wind
and new growth
Which requires repentance
and letting go…
So what do I need to repent of?
Where do I need to let go?
My flesh
and wicked heart of stone
Always wanting to move
To prove
That I can make a way
and create my own growth
If there is anything this past year has shown
Is that I truly have no control
My life is not my own
To be still
and know
That those things I did let go
Have shown
That God is moving
and proving
That He is providing
and protecting
In ways that in the moment
and sometimes still
I cannot comprehend
But in the end
It is His way
Is is His plan
and on His rock
I will stand
and now
Now is the time
To draw the line in the sand
No more going back
No more pushing against the Wind
For I will wait on the Lord
and soar on the wings of Eagles
Even though now
It may not make sense
I would rather be moving
With the breath of His Wind
Than rely on the strength
Of my own feeble, human hands
So I ask now, Lord
Where do I move?
Where do I go?
My heart longs to know
My feet want to go
For I am all yours
and I am ready to grow.

2024: The year of New Growth