Do you tend to be a peacemaker, afraid of making those close to you upset or angry, even being dishonest
to avoid conflict, or just give in to get it over with, or…can you initiate a difficult conversation to resolve a
problem/conflict?

We’d love to share with you how important it is to understand that how you were loved absodarnlutely
affects how you love who you love. Join us the last week of January in a trench near you to get better at
loving whomever you love.
​
Kim-Evinda

​The receptionist on the other end of the phone said “Let me check if he has any availability
today and if not, we’ll have to put you on his calendar for next week.” Impatience pushed her
response: “I can’t wait; I need to get these invoices out like yesterday. Can you please just
connect me to Charles who helps us with QuickBooks problems.”
How many times are we asked to wait for one thing or another? Thanks for joining us for
Wednesday’s Word with Kim Evinda and Trench Classes United. Today’s blog is a great
reminder that life’s answers for many lessons are found in the waiting.

“Let me see if he is available.”
Thank you she replied.
As she waited, she realized that she could struggle and strive in the waiting, or she could lean
in, look and/or learn while waiting. She wasn’t new to this concept of waiting and yet, she
couldn’t help but think she was missing something truly meaningful about it because she just
wasn’t getting any better at it.

Her thoughts travelled to almost three years ago when her life had taken a drastic turn towards
a life-changing tragedy. She had been reading a book whose author had been going thru the
same type of tragedy and had endured for three years the pain, suffering and uncertainty as
God worked in and through it.

The receptionist’s voice interrupted her thoughts. “Let me connect you to Charles.”
Within minutes her problem was resolved. She thanked him and returned to her thoughts.

She remembered practically yelling out to God and her words haunted her with a sense of
humility: “I WILL NOT GO THRU THIS FOR THREE YEARS, GOD! Don’t ask me to wait that long. I
can’t; I just can’t.”
And here she was, four and a half years later…waiting for the promises that God had made her.
She was still a bit confused in the waiting, but confusion no longer stole from her infusion of His
steadfastness, His love and His grace.
Yes, in this SOAR (Season of Adultery Recovery), she was still learning the steps of waiting that
He had begun to show her when the nightmare first began:

1. Waiting requires surrendering our right to understand it all
2. Surrendering will enable us to lean into Him
3. Leaning into Him will increase our trust in Him [this will help us to take Him at His word for when we experience the presence of God we will experience the peace of God]
4. And finally, when we experience His presence, this enables us to stop looking left or right, and change our focus from the waiting to the One who carries us through the waiting.

Psalm 27:14 tells us to wait on the Lord and He will strengthen our hearts.
Psalms 37:7 says to rest in the Lord…wow, have you ever thought of waiting as resting?
Habakkuk 2:3 says: For the vision [is] yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and
not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry.
Oh that I wouldn’t be found off course so as to miss it!

Yes, friends, God will do as He promises in His time, but oftentimes there’s a period of waiting
that has so much for us.

Waiting in His Grace,
Kim-Evinda

Miriam Webster’s defines “relationship” in this way: the way in which two or more people,
groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other. The way in which
two or more people are connected, or the state of being connected.

Did you know that there are 5,734 different relationships talked about in the Bible? I’m
thinking HE wants us to understand the significance, the importance of this idea of
relationships. He created relationships to work for us not against us.

If you’d like to learn how to connect healthier and happier with those you love, and even
those you don’t, consider joining us in January for our How to Love Who You Love Trench.
​
Love,
Kim-Evinda

Are you in or have you been in a situation that you didn’t see coming, or that you just
can’t understand?

Thanks for joining us for Monday’s Message with Abigail Rice and Trench Classes
United. Today’s message is a great reminder of comfort for those times where we just
don’t get it and don’t want to. The enemy is walking around like a roaring lion, seeking
whom he may trick or deceive, but hold fast to the One who has the victory!
​
Eyes watering
Heart throbbing
Hands as numb
As the person I’ve become
Because it’s easier to say he won
With his lying tongue
Than it is to get back up
and fight for the millionth time
This night
This day
This morning
I pray
That when you feel like you can no longer take this
That you just can’t break this
Remember you were created for this
Soldier
Daughter
Mother
With a heart full of love
and a laugh like no other
Your soul is on fire
For it’s one true desire
But the flesh
It bites back
With every enemy attack

How to unpack?
Or even fathom
Or begin
To feel like you have the upper hand?

When no one is around that seems to understand
How can you swallow that pill
Not knowing who you are
Or how to even feel?
The confusion is real
The delusion to heal
But when His Word is your meal
You lick the crumbs off the plate
Hoping that this
Is not just a momentary bliss
and He reminds you of this
“Nations will come to your light
and kings to the brightness of your dawn” - (Isaiah 60:3)
Darling, you must go on
The cold winds may bite your face
But this is not your fate
To feel so small
Like you can’t go on
Darling you must remove the object of your lust
Your desire to know
and always be in control
Is taking a toll
As you get hit
Blow after blow
Remember and know
I called you to this
I will pull you out of this thick
Let go of your grip
and remember before all
you were made for this…
Abigail

It’s that time of year where life seems to be put on steroids, and we get
caught up doing versus being.

Thanks for joining us for Faith-Filled Friday with Debra Dolce and Trench
Classes United. Today’s Love Letter is a great reminder of where and how
we can find that quality quiet place.

~Love Letter~

My warrior, I offer a resting place for you in My luxurious love. My directions take you to
an oasis of peace near the quiet brook of bliss.

Meditate on this wonderful promise. Close your eyes and be swept away by My love.
Remember, the Apostle Paul said that he was caught up to the third heaven–whether in
his body or out he could not tell. He was meditating on My love, My goodness.

No matter what situation you find yourself in, you can always spend time meditating on
Me, on My love, on My peace and let it guide you to that quiet brook of bliss. I desire all
My children to learn how to live out of this place, defeating the chaos that tries to rob
you of all that I offer to you.

It's exciting for you to know I'm as close as your breath. Breathe Me in until you feel
your whole being relaxed. That feeling of relaxing is Me taking the struggle that you've
been carrying for so long. As you meditate on Me, the troubles and trials are put in their
right perspective, and you are infused with my strength and my peace. Beloved, I
desire you to be filled with My love and be fully equipped for life. 
​
~DebraDolce

The word “thank” and all its forms is in His Love Letters to us more than
365 times. I can’t help but think that’s one a day! In the toughest of times,
God reminds us that while we may not necessarily be thankful for that
circumstance, we can still practice being thankful while in the
circumstance.

As you gather with friends and family this Thanksgiving, may you reflect on
a circumstance that you may not have been thankful for while going
through it, but looking back, you can see His hand all over it that got you
through it.
​
Truthfully,
Kim-Evinda

Dear Blog Reader,

Every time I read this poem which I wrote several years ago, I can’t help
but smile. I pray it does the same for you while keeping your perspective
thankful. Enjoy and, please, reach out and let me know your thoughts.

Twas the night before Thanksgiving all through the house
Every creature was stirring, including the mouse
Everyone was working on all of the fixings
The noise and smells were coming from the kitchen
​
The children were busy with their tablets and toys
Captured in their games, they made not a noise
While the adults laughed and worked all collectively
What a beautiful sight it was for any heart to see

When all of a sudden there arose such a clatter
Mom ran to the kitchen to see what was the matter
She looked to the left and she looked to the right
She couldn’t believe what was in plain sight

There was broken glass from a favorite platter
And at first glance, she knew it didn’t matter
Everyone was frozen, waiting for her reaction
But she didn’t give the devil that satisfaction

The counters were a mess, preparations everywhere
It looked as though a tornado had just gone thru there
The turkey had flown from the platter to the floor
The poor thing looked like it just couldn’t take no more

The stove was a disaster waiting to happen
full of pots and pans, handles overlapping
The old mom would have immediately gotten on her broom
And painted the atmosphere with a bit of doom and gloom

But the new and improved mom was no longer that way
For she had learned the true meaning of Thanksgiving Day
She stared at each of them and the mess they surrounded
Knowing her response would leave them astounded

Now sons, now daughters, in-laws and friends like family
Is this ever a sight for the eyes of my heart to see?
More than the chaos, the mess on the floor
The memories we’re making are worth so much more

So grab a rag, and a dishtowel too
Here’s one for each and every one of you
Let’s work together in cleaning up this mess
It will only take a few minutes or less

Pick up the turkey, and we’ll wash him off
We’ll stuff him but good and put him in the trough
We’ll baste him all over, and get him ready to eat
No one will ever know we stepped on his feet

And when the morrow comes and we gather for the meal
We’ll be able to discern what matters and what’s real
Faith, family, friends, love and laughter
Help to bring us all the happily ever after

I looked to each of them with tears in my eyes
And said something I had just realized
Oh, why can’t it be Thanksgiving every day?
Loving each other in a Christ-like way

Patience, self-control, love and joy too
Are there for the asking for each of you
We don’t have to wait for a holiday to see
That Christ’s greatest gift is that of family

Thankful,
Kim-Evinda

Life is sure happening all around us, right?! There are so many who are
struggling for various reasons. Whether it be financial struggles, health
issues, losses of loved ones, we struggle to understand, Why is God
allowing this?

Yes, it’s true that all things go through His hand, but -- this is a big but -- He
still holds us in His hand and is working it out for our good and His glory.
Can I encourage you to take that leap of faith, rest in His hand and let Him
do His work that you too may exclaim with praise, I may not be perfect,
life’s not perfect but He’s got me in His hand and He’s perfecting me in the
process.
​
Truthfully,
Kim-Evinda

 Monday Message

Are you in or have you been in a situation that you didn’t see coming, or that you just
can’t understand?

Thanks for joining us for Monday’s Message with Abigail Rice and Trench Classes
United. Today’s message is a great reminder of comfort for those times where we just
don’t get it and don’t want to. The enemy is walking around like a roaring lion, seeking
whom he may trick or deceive, but hold fast to the One who has the victory!

Eyes watering
Heart throbbing
Hands as numb
As the person I’ve become

Because it’s easier to say he won
With his lying tongue
Than it is to get back up
and fight for the millionth time

This night
This day
This morning
I pray

That when you feel like you can no longer take this
That you just can’t break this
Remember you were created for this

Soldier
Daughter
Mother
With a heart full of love
and a laugh like no other

Your soul is on fire
For it’s one true desire

But the flesh
It bites back
With every enemy attack

How to unpack?
Or even fathom
Or begin
To feel like you have the upper hand?

When no one is around that seems to understand
How can you swallow that pill
Not knowing who you are
Or how to even feel?

The confusion is real
The delusion to heal
But when His Word is your meal
You lick the crumbs off the plate
Hoping that this
Is not just a momentary bliss
and He reminds you of this

“Nations will come to your light
and kings to the brightness of your dawn” - (Isaiah 60:3)
Darling, you must go on
The cold winds may bite your face
But this is not your fate
​
To feel so small
Like you can’t go on
Darling you must remove the object of your lust
Your desire to know
and always be in control
Is taking a toll
As you get hit
Blow after blow
Remember and know
I called you to this
I will pull you out of this thick
Let go of your grip
and remember before all
you were made for this…
​
Abigail

How many times do we not speak truth because of a fear of rejection or even confrontation?
Thanks for joining us for Faith-Filled Friday with Debra Dolce and Trench Classes United.
Today’s Love Letter is a great reminder that as a Christ follower, we need to watch out for
those going in the wrong direction, causing emotional wrecks and dividing His Church, and
move toward them in love.
​
~Love Letter~

Watch over each other to make sure that no one misses the revelation of My grace. And
make sure no one lives with a root of bitterness sprouting within them which will only
cause trouble and poison the hearts of many.

This is a good Word of instruction. It is important for you to surround yourself with
people who love you and with whom you respect. Why? Because they will tell you the
truth and if you are lacking in any of these areas. My Word reminds you that iron
sharpens iron.

This is so needed in My body right now. People don't want to say anything to anybody
for fear of rejection. But when I show you something it's because I desire you to move
on behalf of another. Bring situations that I show you to Me and intercede on behalf of
others so that I may direct your path. Let Me direct you so your words will speak to the
hearts of those that have grown cold, those who have forgotten of My grace.
Yes, there are those that don't take instruction well. When you are confronted with this,
spend time in prayer to get your direction in the way you should go. I have shown you
such an example in Paul, who would bring out sins of bitterness, pride and selfish
motives that were being overlooked or accepted. He expressed his desire for Me to
save their soul.

By looking out for one another, you cause healing not only in each other but also in the
body. Beloved, know that speaking life is not just being passive but it's speaking the
truth in love so that true repentance will come into the hearts of those you speak truth
to.
 
~DebraDolce