Allowing others’ actions too much time in our heads breeds fear

Thursday Trench Truth

Thanks for joining us for Thursday’s Trench Truth, which really is all about how fears affect us.

Friends, when we allow someone’s actions, words, attitudes to take up so much of our thoughts, there’s an underlying issue that is absodarnlutely fear-based and fear steals from our faith.

I’m speaking from the heart here and yet I have to be careful, not out of fear, but out of respect, because the season I find myself in is not just my story; there are other characters involved, if you will but all I have control over is me.

When we mind-screw someone else’s attitudes and actions towards us, we zap ourselves of energy but something else kicks in: Fear!  There’s the fear of rejection, the fear of not fitting in, the fear of not being good enough, doing enough, having enough. I mean fears are as endless and as deep as the sea.

We must remember to push the pause button and face this fear with a couple of questions:

1. Is this attitude/action of the other tied to events of the past and/or to recent events? ________. In other words, did they push a trigger? __________

 

1. Is the object of my fear a true threat or a perceived one? _______  In other words, am I feeling something that’s not really been expressed but is more of my own perception? _____

 
Chances are the answers to those questions will shed some light on what is yours versus what is theirs and help you to let go of your fears and ask God to intervene and make right what was wrong.

Learning to be fearless,
Kim-Evinda