​Being scorekeeper doesn’t secure a win

Thursday's Trench Truth

Do you keep score of the things those you care about did to you or about you, or…are you able to express your hurt/disappointment appropriately.

The other day, the opportunity to do just that, express myself appropriately, showed up unexpectedly. That’s how life is, lessons show up unexpectedly and we can either stop and learn the lesson, or keep on going until we are forced to figure it out.     

So here’s what happened: my step-son had done something which let’s just say totally irritated me, pushed a button and it wasn’t the happy one. When we got home, he actually asked me, you mad? “I’m fine.” No sooner had the little white lie escaped my lips when all of a sudden, my conscience was searing. I stopped what I was doing, thought about what I would say…without an attitude and then went outside and addressed it. It went something like this: Hey, Bryce, so when you asked me if I was mad, I wasn’t really mad, just irritated. I went on to address his action, NOT his character, and then boom, just like that, I was done; irritation vanished and integrity intact.

What if I hadn’t of approached it? I’ll tell you what would have happened. It would have resided deeper and deeper into my soul and been added to any other unresolved conflict until one day….But it doesn’t have to be that way!

Plan on joining us in a trench near you, and even thru Zoom, to learn how to love those you love and even learn to communicate healthily with those you don’t…really like too much!  www.trenchclassesunited.com/classes

​-Kim-Evinda