Being scorekeeper doesn’t secure a win ~KE

Thursdays Trench Truth

Do you keep score of the things those you care about did to you or about you, or…are
you able to express your hurt/disappointment appropriately
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I remember the opportunity to do just that, express myself appropriately, showed up
unexpectedly. That’s how life is; lessons show up unexpectedly and we can either stop
and learn the lesson, or keep on going until we are forced to figure it out.
So here’s what happened: my step-son had done something which let’s just say totally
irritated me, pushed a button and it wasn’t the happy one. When we got home, he
actually asked me, you mad? “I’m fine.” No sooner had the little white lie escaped my
lips when all of a sudden, my conscience was searing. I stopped what I was doing,
thought about what I would say…without an attitude and then went outside and
addressed it. It went something like this: Hey, Bryce, so when you asked me if I was
mad, I wasn’t really mad, just irritated. I went on to address his action, NOT his
character, and then boom, just like that, I was done; irritation vanished and integrity
intact.

What if I hadn’t approached it? I’ll tell you what would have happened. It would have
resided deeper and deeper into my soul and been added to any other unresolved
conflict until one day….But it doesn’t have to be that way!

Plan on joining us in our How to Love Trench coming to Redlands next week. Come
learn how to love those you love and even learn to communicate healthily with those
you don’t…really like too much! Check out the link for our Zoom opportunity as well.
www.trenchclassesunited.com/classes

Learning and Unlearning…
Kim-Evinda