Idealizing Breeds Discontent

Tuesday Trench Truth

The temptation to idealize relationships is strongest when we are at our weakest…
 
What do I mean by that?
 
When I start thinking about how I think a marriage should be, maybe I compare mine to others who post perfect pictures and perfect lives on Fake-book, I mean Facebook, well, I have started to idealize and when I idealize, I forget to realize that the grass is NEVER greener on the other side; it just looks that way.
 
When we stay in that mindset of idealizing how we think our significant relationship should be, the more discontent we create. And the more discontent we sit in, the more likely we are to jump out of it and go in search of “something better.” Is there any wonder there are so many divorces? See, there can’t be a healthy us without a healthy u!

So instead of thinking about the changes I’d like to see in my covenant partner, or the things I think we should be doing, accomplishing, tackling, perhaps it’s time to look at what I can do to be the change I want to see, to be content within me; after all, isn’t that all I have control over? And if I jump out of this relationship in search of that ideal one, won’t I run into me again?

Yes, many times for things to change, we must be willing to change.

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Love,
Kim-Evinda