What do you do with the words you shouldn’t say?

Tuesday Trench Truth

I was in the gym the other day and couldn’t help but hear a conversation two guys were having…about their wives! And I thought we as women were the only ones who vented!
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Thanks for joining us for Tuesday’s Trench Truth with Trench Classes United and Kim Evinda.

The first thing I heard one of them say is: “My wife is so f-ing selfish, man!”
I think I must have looked like a deer caught in a pair of glaring headlights, because as soon as he said it, he caught my expression and immediately bent down to avoid my staring. I didn’t mean to look so dumbfounded. It just kind of caught me off guard. 

For the rest of my workout, I tried desperately to not listen to their conversation as they both began to “vent” about their wives.

This was a double-edged sword for me, because I’ve been known to “vent” about many things, but seeing this with my own eyes, hearing these things with my own ears, well, it was like putting the shoe on the other foot, knowing this could easily be my closest friends saying this. I mean I know there have been plenty of times where I’ve done things motivated by pure selfishness.

The truth is everyone needs someone to vent to, but there’s a difference between venting and vomiting!
Hearing this vomiting…I mean venting made me think, what if that were any of the people I love talking about me? How would I feel? I would much rather hear about my offense from the one I offended.

If we can’t say what we’re venting to the one we’re venting about, perhaps we shouldn’t say it.

If you would like to learn how to vent healthily and not vomit your hurts and frustrations, join us in our upcoming How to Love Who You Love trench near you.

Have a terrific Tuesday!